“The constellation I did with Joke was very special. Together we looked at a theme, an important common thread in my life. I selected four people to represent this and placed them on chairs next to me. At first, it felt awkward and distant, but that changed quickly. It became intense, because at a certain point, I surrendered to it. Joke often had her eyes closed, totally focused on what was happening and what was being conveyed through her. She talked, asked questions, and helped me move forward, like a guide. I gave something back to every person in my constellation. The most difficult one, the one that touched me the most, my father, came last. My father passed away five years ago, but for the past year, he has been regularly present at the sessions with Joke. This was also the case during the constellation. How did I feel afterwards? Very calm. And what did it ultimately do to me? It set a process in motion, or perhaps accelerated what was already underway. It makes me more aware of patterns I have 'inherited,' and that I can return burdens to those to whom those burdens belong.” That brings relief; for me not suddenly like a bolt of lightning, but step by step and very steadily. As Joke put it so beautifully: once you take this on, there is no turning back.” *Judith*